Monday, May 18, 2015

Socialization---going outside the box

Who am I?  That is a question that I have wondered for decades now.  I was the kid who never truly knew what she wanted when she was growing up.  I was also the kid who wasn't sure what her favorite color was. I realize that I meshed well with older people than those of my age.  I could relate to them better.  I did have friends my age, but I felt that I could talk to adults about what we would talk about.  I realize that I had no idea why.  I was the smart, yet overweight, weird kid at school.  I was hardly physically bullied but verbal bullying and being laughed at doesn't make things easier.  I didn't realize that I would remember this to this day.  I have gotten over that.  However, I haven't gotten over the fact that my socialization skills are lacking and have been for quite some time.  This week I was supposed to think outside the box.  So I guess I have to outline this one too.  Let me see.  Maybe I should take the parts of my life and use that as a guide, but how?

Think outside the box
      Socialization
           Reflection from the past
                Could relate better with adults than with children my age
                      Where could I find people my age to learn to relate to?
                             I have had those issues since I was in my 20's.
                                   I haven't had many friends outside of the internet to converse or interact with.
                                          What should I do?  How do I begin to go outside the box?
           Going outside the box
                  Where can I start?
                          Who do I start with?
                                 What do people my age do?
                                         Ironically, I can only relate to people younger than 30.
                                              Do I want to have kids, even at my age?
                                                    That would mean I have to get married, but where would I meet my future husband.
                  Places where I can begin socializing
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